An Exit Interview with Fear
Yesterday we talked about how fear is like a protective coating that protects us from things that can harm us, but in order for us to grow, we must tell the fear that it is no longer needed. Its not as though we need to get angry or upset with fear. The truth is, it is best when we address our fear that we are calm and don’t get excited because excitement makes fear raise up its defenses. We do much better if we can address fear with a coolly, rationally and lovingly.
The best way to get rid of fear is to let hm know that he is no longer needed.
Imagine that you are an employer and that fear’s job has been terminated. Treat this conversation like an exit interview and fear is getting the ax. Here is how such a conversation could go:
In an interview room, two chairs are facing one another. I am sitting in one. Fear enters the room. He is standing very militarily. His eyes are ever watchful. He is proud of the work that he has been doing. I motion fear to take the seat facing the one in which I am sitting.
Me: Hello fear, I see that you have been very busy taking care of business. I see that you are trying to protect me from failure, and I appreciate your efforts.
Fear: Well, thank you. It is nice that I am appreciated.
Me: You’ve come to work every day, did your time, did your job well. Too well in fact. However, I have bad news for you. The job that you have been do no longer is needed so I have to let you go. It is time for me to grow, and the job that you have been doing is hindering that grown. I’m sorry, but I have to let you go.
Fear: But I like it here. Please keep me on.
Me: The truth is,Your job was supposed to have been a temporary one. I have kept you on far longer than I should have.
Fear: But if I leave, you’ll be more vulnerable. I won’t be here to protect you.
Me: But if you stay, I can’t grow and grow I must.
Fear: I see. I understand. I wish it were different. I really liked working for you.
Me: And you did your job well. It is just that I no longer need the services you provide. Good-bye fear.
(Fear gets up. He is stooped over, his head low. He walks out of the room. I sort of feel sorry for him, but I know that it is for the best. It is time for me to grow.)
About the Author
Cygnet Brown has recently finished her first nonfiction book: Simply Vegetable Gardening: Simple Organic Gardening Tips for the Beginning Gardener She is also the author of historical fiction series The Locket Saga Cygnet Brown resides in Springfield, Missouri.
Day 11 Overcoming Fear Challenge ©2014 Donna (Cygnet) Brown